Date: 2018-01-07 16:28
You need to know the value of what you 8767 re negotiating (your services) to the other party, and to the market. You need to know the value you place on it yourself (what you want, what you would accept, what your alternatives are in the absence of an agreement).
Like Alex, I try to describe the problem without saying 8775 I 8767 m a perfectionist 8776 even though that 8767 s what it is.
He might try and get nothing. Oh well. He won 8767 t really get 8766 nothing 8767 perhaps he 8767 ll learn a thing or two. There 8767 s a lot to be said for trying something, even once.
The point I 8767 m trying to make is that I don 8767 t buy that there 8767 s any role where you 8767 re 655% perfect at every aspect of the job that you actually need to do, and asking about weaknesses in an interview is a way to get at that information. It 8767 s not about trying to focus on irrelevant skills or trying to develop things you won 8767 t need to actually do. I still don 8767 t think the response about the basketball team makes sense because all it says is 8775 don 8767 t develop skills you won 8767 t need to use 8776 and that seems obvious.
I think, though, that you 8767 re characterizing something that could be a trick as something that 8767 s always a trick. 8775 Tell me about a weakness 8776 isn 8767 t inherently a trick it could be a completely straight forward question and most people use it as such.
Additionally, for the same reasons and because of the loss of employer flexibility and employee options, no employee may date another employee who is separated by more than one level in the chain of command.
I also have an anxiety disorder. For me, perfectionism seems to be my reaction to associating my value with high achievement in my childhood (now followed by very low achievement in adulthood) and having some sort of ADHD PI shadow syndrome.
Perhaps he quit because he was embarrassed that you didn 8767 t immediately fall into his arms? I 8767 d say that he was mortified, but anyone who would ask that type of toe-deaf question probably wouldn 8767 t be aware enough to immediately realize his mistake.
I actually do say it in interviews. Every job I 8767 ve ever had (as a social worker) has always tried to get me to handle numbers eventually, whether it 8767 s budget work or data collecting for grant renewals. I 8767 ve found that if I say in interviews that I have dyscalculia, the interviewer hears it but doesn 8767 t consider it a hinderance since they aren 8767 t planning to give me number work right then. Six months after hire, when they 8767 ve realized that I 8767 m good at keeping a lot of balls in the air, they forget about the dyscalculia and try to assign me a number-heavy task. I remind them about the LD and they give the task to someone else.
#8 This is just a thought, but maybe, since you were hoping for a bit more salary and you don 8767 t have much of a record yet, you could negotiate for an earlier review and possible raise? For example, ask for a review at 6 months instead of a year and then of course make sure you knock their socks off in the first 6 months.